[BUG]: Distutils is going to be deprecated with Python3.12

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### Problem description



In Python 3.12 distutils is going to be removed and with 3.10 it's marked as deprecated. Currently `tools/FindPythonLibsNew.cmake` is still using



["${PYTHON_EXECUTABLE}" "-c" "from distutils import sysconfig as s;import sys;import struct;](https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/blob/ce18721d830a9deb8cf1883b513bcb8f98090c35/tools/FindPythonLibsNew.cmake#L115)



It might be replaceable by a simple `import sysconfig as s;`



See [[0]](https://docs.python.org/3/whatsnew/3.10.html#distutils-deprecated) and [[1]](https://docs.python.org/3/library/distutils.html)



Kind regards,

Arno



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